by Kimberly Hill | Dec 23, 2021 | Podcasts, Sex
What does it mean to be truly sexually satisfied? Do you have a desire discrepancy in your relationship? How can you talk to your children about sex and sexual health in a meaningful way? In reference to sex, do you like having the same meal three times a week, or do you want to dine at the all you can eat buffet? These are all questions Jennifer and I talk about in today’s episode, where we start peeling back the layers of understanding sex and some ways you can bring this conversation up with your intimate partner.
Jennifer Litner, Ph.D., LMFT, CST is a licensed psychotherapist and sexuality educator who is passionate about helping people navigate sexuality-related concerns. Jennifer specializes in sex and relationship therapy and helping people work through life transitions and anxiety.
Jennifer is the founder of Embrace Sexual Wellness, a wellness center providing sex therapy and sexuality education programming in Chicago, Illinois.
You can learn more about Jennifer, her course and her work here.
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by Kimberly Hill | Dec 15, 2021 | Podcasts, Relationships
How do you take care of yourself and all your parts? We don’t just navigate this world with one personality, but multiple personalities that appear in different situations. Take your relationships for example. Have you ever seen a nasty side of you come out during conflict? One that you don’t even recognize?
Today I speak with a friend and coach, Chris Wilson about crafting conscious relationships and what it means to be self-led in a relationship. We even chat about the magical kitchen metaphor and the embodiment of multiplicity of self vs. the myth of the monolithic personality.
It’s an episode that dives deep into how we can care for ourselves and stop looking at our partners as the person who will fix us or save us. That is something you can do for yourself, with deep love and compassion.
Chris Wilson is a student and teacher of deep somatic healing and connection work. He spends most of his time holding space with men practicing, learning, and sharing. In his late 20’s he experienced a massive anxiety attack that rocked his world and connected him to his body in new and profound ways.
This event inspired his mission to create spaces and programs for men to discover their inner ability to connect, heal and grow as open-hearted leaders. Chris discovered his practice calling him to follow in the Mahayana Buddhist tradition of the path of bodhicitta – The aim to fully awaken our heart and mind, not just for our own greater well-being but also to bring benefit and wisdom to other living beings.
In this way, he sees his work as open, creative, and inviting to all who want to connect deeply with their life, relationships, and purpose. He often smiles, cries, and laughs at the gift of being able to share this work.
Connect with Chris and join his mailing list here.
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by Kimberly Hill | Dec 10, 2021 | Podcasts, Relationships
We’ve only started to scratch the surface of understanding how trauma impacts our bodies and our intimate relationships. From small to large traumas they shape who we are and how we interact with the world. So today, I had the immense pleasure of chatting with a friend and trauma-informed coach about her story, emotional trauma, the fight-flight-fawn-freeze responses and how it shows up in our relationships. We even talked about healthy anger expression.
Lea Morrison is a trauma-informed coach, healer and stress management teacher who incorporates a bottom-up approach to trauma care through nervous system regulation, vibrational healing, conscious awareness, and meditation. After climbing out of a lifetime of trauma herself, she has dedicated her career to helping others remember who they are underneath all of the stories of pain, shame and grief. Empowering each client back home to the greatness of who they really are.
Please follow and connect with Lea here:
Instagram
Website
If you’re interested in learning more about Kimberly and working with her, please book a complimentary conversation here.
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by Kimberly Hill | Dec 3, 2021 | Emotions, Podcasts
Do you need a way to truly connect to yourself and your emotions? Breathwork is a phenomenal way to slow yourself down and truly get in touch with your internal world. Today I have the immense pleasure of bringing on Chris Marhefka to talk about his work in supporting and coaching individuals with their breath and bodies.
Chris Marhefka facilitates transformation by opening hearts, expanding minds, & giving people permission to be their most authentic selves. Chris creates life-changing experiences in emotional healing, inner-child work, somatic experiencing, breathwork, masculine embodiment, relationship and communication coaching, men’s development, and leadership mentoring.
Today we talk about how Chris got into this field of work, how important breathwork is, what men are facing today with emotional expression, or an explosion of emotions, and we even do a live exercise which you can join from the comfort of your house!
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Connect with Chris here:
Training Camp For The Soul
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by Kimberly Hill | Nov 28, 2021 | Blogs, Holidays
It’s a pump and dump holiday strategy.
You may have been dating someone for a few weeks, and then all of a sudden December is here. Queue the Christmas parties, fun city events, skiing and Christmas lights to look at. It’s a wonderful time to be cuddled up with someone special. So you decide to keep that somebody around just so you have a convenient plus one. It’s called Snow Globing.
As quoted by Cosmopolitan magazine “snow-globing means the person you’ve been dating is using the holiday season to con you into thinking you two are more serious than you are.”
This means you keep your date around during the holidays, but you know very well that you don’t have any intention of taking things further. As soon as the NYE’s part ball drops, you plan to boot them out of your life. What gives?
Many of us feel the compounding effects of loneliness during the holidays. We want to have someone to take to parties and to enjoy the festivities of the season. And men in particular fear being single more than women over the holidays. Plus, it’s okay to keep someone around just for the holidays, right? We’ve seen this scenario play out in Hollywood films such as Holiday Engagement, Love The Coopers and Hitched For The Holidays where someone poses as a “fake” boyfriend or girlfriend. The sad thing is people can do this for real, without the other person knowing.
Are you guilty of keeping someone around over the holidays out of sheer convenience?
I get it. The holidays are a time of festive cheer, but maybe you’re not feeling cheerful. This time of year puts a big emphasis on intimate relationships and social connectedness. If you’re already having a hard time, December can make it feel even worse.
It’s important to understand your triggers during this time of year. Here are a few suggestions on how to deal with the holiday blues:
Help others. This is a great time of the year to remember what we are thankful for and to help others in need. Is this some local volunteering you could do around soup kitchens or toy drives? Maybe a friend needs help doing some Christmas baking, or a neighbour needs helps to shovel the driveway. Whatever it is, get out there and lend a hand to those in need.
Be kind to yourself. Take yourself out on a date, spoil yourself with a fancy at-home meal, and get yourself something extra special to put under the Christmas tree. You don’t need to have a partner to get spoiled at Christmas. Is there a new sports club you want to join? Or perhaps an online course you’ve been wanting to take? Plus, NYE is a great time to be single and mingle.
Plan and get connected. Don’t isolate yourself during the holidays. Make sure to plan with friends and family to attend fun events and enjoy the festivities together. Could you host a dinner party? A themed party? Get the social calendar out and start putting in some ideas to look forward to.
Examine your feelings. The holiday season is also a time for reflection and gratitude. Starting a daily meditation practice or gratitude journal might help you re-frame your mindset into a more abundant and positive one. You can score an end-of-year sale with Headspace (a guided meditation app) or download Insight Timer to listen to free guided meditations for gratitude and positivity.
What do you think would help you during the Holiday season?
Kimberly Hill is a leading Dating & Relationship Coach For Men, and Host of The Self-Confidence Project Podcast. You can follow her on Instagram @kimberlyninahill. For more information, go to www.kimberlyninahill.com.
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